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Sue Johanson
Sue Johanson is Canada's foremost sexual educator and counsellor, recipient of the distinguished Order of Canada. For the last 30 years, she has provided frank and honest sexual education to thousands of Canadians through her lectures, radio programs, and the Sunday Night Sex Show on television. Since 2002, Sue's wisdom and experience have been available to American viewers on Talk Sex with Sue Johanson, a live phone-in program airing on Oxygen TV. Talk Sex also airs in Brazil with Portuguese subtitles on GNT. Aside from her duties as a sexual educator, Sue is a Registered Nurse, a mother, and a grandmother. She continues to tour universities and special events, lecturing on sexuality and answering a panoply of audience questions that runs the gamut from anal sex to zygotes. Because of her busy schedule, Sue cannot answer individual questions through this web site. However, she has provided thorough information to the questions she is most commonly asked. Also, she has written extensively about sexual problems and concerns. Penguin Books has published three of her works: Talk Sex Sex is Perfectly Natural, But Not Naturally Perfect Sex, Sex, and More Sex In 2004, Regan Publishing issued a new version of "Sex, Sex, and More Sex" updated by Sue, and it is currently available in major bookstores and on line. We suggest that you check your local library for the earlier titles.

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Doc Johnson
Last week, the real Juli took me to the world headquarters of Doc Johnson (docjohnson.com), one of the world's leading sex toy manufacturers. I was expecting one huge factory, but it was more of a compound, with multiple buildings all buzzing with activity. I got a tour from the president himself, Ron Braverman, who proudly proclaimed, "We were the first company to manufacture and market butt plugs." My hero! Doc Johnson makes over 5,000 different products, including vibrators, penis pumps, lube, blindfolds, and anti-porn crusader Catherine MacKinnon's worst nightmare: disembodied replicas of porn stars' famous bits (like Jeff Stryker's cock and Jenna Jameson's cooch). It hit me when I saw the recognizable crotch creations: I was visiting the place that created, and still churns out, Juli Ashton's Ultra-Realistic Pussy & Ass, and I was there with Juli. Life had come full circle. We visited that very department, where designers had recently taken plaster casts of the pusses of four starlets: Lexie, Monique Alexander, and newcomer twins Lacey and Lyndsey Love. From the plaster cast a mold is created, explained Braverman, and "we really try to make it as close to the real thing as possible." The four plaster cunts sat in a circle, but they weren't labeled, so I wasn't sure who was who. I noticed that a small stray piece of plaster sat next to one. One of the workers said, "She had one very large labia. I had to fold it over her opening to make the cast, and it broke." He carefullydare I say lovinglyplaced the piece of plaster where it should be to demonstrate. "I'm going to reattach it before I make the mold," he said, and his statement was strangely sweet. Braverman informed Juli that they've improved the technology and the process, which only takes 30 minutes from start to finish. Juli considered doing a special 10th anniversary pussy and ass as we walked over to the next building. From there it was a whirlwind of sex toy production. I can't adequately describe the sight of copper cock molds moving swiftly along a conveyor belt, of toys being pulled from those molds and tossed into a cold-water bath to cool, of sparkling pink jelly dongs laid out in a row, of fat baby-blue butt plugs waiting patiently to be put into their custom-designed packages. Or the area where certain toys (known as "the realistics") get a personal touch: hand painting. Here, women gingerly brush pink dye onto cock heads and pussy lips and clits (to mimic the engorgement process during arousal) or draw bluish veins on peach-colored shafts. The color looked garish, but Braverman assured me that as it gets absorbed into the material, it will fade and look more natural. Rarely do people ask themselves, "Where do dildos come from?" before they pick one out in the store, bring it home, tear into the packaging, and take it for a test drive. They are such personal items that bring us great pleasure. And there I was, at their place of creation. I watched with great reverence as double dongs made their way down an assembly line, suction cups were methodically attached right under the balls of realistic dildos, and bottles were filled from huge vats of strawberry-scented lube. At quality control, each product was carefully inspected for imperfections. I half expected to find a testing area in a typical focus-group room with one-way mirrors, this one filled with naked people trying out toys and rating them on a questionnaire. If that exists at Doc Johnson, I didn't get to see it. I did, however, get a peek inside the new-product development department, which was the highlight of my visit. There, designers were brainstorming ideas, experim-enting with new toy materials, and testing different design elements. I smelled the prototype of a scented toy they're working on (it was either peach or some kind of melon, I'm not sure). I spotted a uniquely shaped butt plug, and asked when it would be on the market (about six months). I found inspired creations that I look forward to seeing on the shelf at my favorite toy shop. I felt like Donald Trump getting a look at new luxury jets before anyone else. At first glance, Doc Johnson seems like any other factory, with the hum of machines creating the soundtrack of the workday, signs about worker safety prominently displayed, and staffers chatting on their lunch break. Plus, it seemed like a good place to work judging by how upbeat everyone was. People smiled at me as I eyed chocolate-brown dicks standing upright on a shelf, and no one seemed stressed or frenetic. There was good energy in the place, and I want my dildos coming from a place with good energy. I wonder, though, how the over 600 employees who work there don't get distracted by the things they create, handle, inspect, and package every day. They are surrounded by sex life spicer-uppers, masturbation tools, and battery-powered orgasm generators. How can they keep from running to the bathroom to jerk off, as I wanted to do halfway through my guided tour? Shockingly, I managed to score zero free shit from my visit (and I could really use a new Juli, since I've, um, worn her out). But that's OK, because Doc Johnson's bestselling toy, the Pocket Rocket, was already in my purse. I never leave home without it.

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Pocket Rocket
Pocket Rocket Vibrator byJanet Choi, Sweet and Sour Editor November 22, 2004 + Denver, CO For the orgasm challenged woman According to one article, 50 percent to 75 percent of women who have orgasms need clitoral stimulation and are unable to have an orgasm through intercourse alone. Suffice it to say I am not in the fortunate 25-50 percentile, which is why Doc Johnson's Pocket Rocket is a mini-blessing. Unlike conventional penis-sized vibrators, the Pocket Rocket is lightweight and can be toted around the office in your skirt pocket. Your boss would be none the wiser if you decided to pop into the loo for a solo nooner. Unfortunately, it \i{would} be obvious to anyone who entered the restroom as this is not one of those fancy silent vibrators. Obvious, that is, unless they bizarrely assumed you were shaving your legs. With an electric razor. At work. The iPod of the sex industry The Pocket Rocket has that translucent colored plastic shell that, unfortunately, became trendy a few years ago thanks to the early iMacs. It comes with a small bottle of handy iLube and a removeable plastic cap with little nubs that are more pointy than an object that touches your clit should be. I've chosen to discard the cap, an accessory which seems completely unnecessary because underneath it are three smooth, round, silver nubs that provide just enough stimulation. If you're orgasmically-challenged and in the market for something portable and powerful, blast off with the Pocket Rocket! Oh. I should mention that although clearly phallic in nature, the Pocket Rocket appears to be for outdoor use only. I might be mistaken and missing out on a mind-blowing experience but I'm not entirely convinced that in the heat of the moment I won't twist too hard in the wrong direction and dismantle the thing, leaving half of it lodged and beyond reach. Caveat emptor.

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Doc Johnson
Doc Johnson's Realistic Cock--Mulatto Reviewed by Audrey Green There are few things I like better than that wonderful full feeling I get after having a delightful meal. In fact, one of those few things that tops it is the wonderful full feeling that I get when Im full of cock. Of course, being filled with a live, pulsating cock is generally preferable, but when push comes to shove (or your boyfriend gets too cranky to deal with), Doc Johnsons Realistic Cock fits like hand in glove. At 8 long, its more than big enough to satisfy your desires, and you dont have to deal with all of the polite niceties that often go along with even casual sex. This cock has one purpose, and its getting you off. The cock I tried on was the mulatto version and, like all of the Realistic Cocks, was molded from an erect penis, thereby replicating all of the fantastic features of a real dick; no torpedoes here, thank you. It has a suction cup attached at the end, which makes it easy to clean (you might think easy to fuck too when suctioned against a wall, but think again; smashing your head against a wall is no way to get an orgasm). Conveniently, the cock also comes with a traveling pouch, so you can take your new friend with you everywhere. In fact, on a cursory examination, the only negative was the smell of rubber, but really, when you get down to it (literally), a real dick doesnt smell much better. Bonus points in the realism department. Im not much of a dong girl (I prefer vibrators). But, after this, I just might be a convert. The Realistic Cock was nice and tight, but moved easily enough when properly lubed. It was also quite flexible, a benefit considering the intricacies of each womans body. Because the cock is so big, its hard for it not to hit all the right places; I was climaxing after the first few minutes. The suction cup provided an easy handle, allowing me to disconnect with the dildo aspect and connect with the fantasy. Finding myself still lusting after my partner after my tryst with the Cock, I found yet another benefit to this wonderful toy: it fits into the majority of strap-on harnesses. This way you can enjoy the pleasure of a big, filling cock with the intimacy of your lover. Sounds like a package deal to me, folks, and this is one package I wont be relinquishing any time soon. DocJohnson'sRealisticCock--Mulatto

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Masturbation
MASTURBATING THE MONTH OF MAY Well, it's all over but the shouting, but in case you haven't heard, May has been National Masturbation Month. Indeed, May 2005 marks National Masturbation Month's tenth anniversary, which is to say it's become something of a national institution. In this young, ever-reinventing-itself country of ours, where history is measured in weeks instead of centuries, and three-month-old news events have already dropped out of national consciousness and politics, something that's going strong after ten years is a force to be reckoned with. National Masturbation Month was proclaimed in May 1995 by the folks at Good Vibrations. Good Vibrations is San Francisco's pioneering sex-education and women-friendly sex-product emporium. In the spring of 1995, Surgeon-General Joycelyn Elders had just been fired by otherwise generally sex-friendly President Bill Clinton (remember Bill Clinton?) because Dr. Elders had said, in public, that teaching adolescents about the joys of masturbation might be a good idea in the safe sex era. Somehow that was enough, all by itself, to cost her her job. And that's when the Democrats were running things. Good Vibrations decided that if promoting masturbation had become sufficient cause to be banished from Washington politics, then it was time for some masturbation advocacy, specifically to "raise awareness and highlight the importance" of masturbation, of self-pleasuring, of solo sex, of jacking off. (For a list of no fewer than one thousand terms for masturbation, check out www.masturbationlist.com) It's either odd or completely to be expected (you decide which) that a sexual act which is arguably the most common of all sexual acts is also an act that is hidden, lied about, and twisted into a mere shadow of being everything it could be, under the weight of a nearly universal blanket of shame and embarrassment. What started out as an amusing, celebratory semi-political jaunt -- and , perhaps a clever marketing angle as well -- has taken wings over the last ten years and become something of a countercultural tradition and observance, with increasing tendrils into mainstream culture as well. This year, New York's Toys in Babeland sex store kicked off Masturbation Month by convening what is called a "National Summit Press Conference" on masturbation, May 4th. National Masturbation Day came three days later (May 7th), proclaimed by sex pioneer Betty Dodson (author of the groundbreaking 1974 book, "Liberating Masturbation," later republished as "Sex for One"). Masturbate-A-Thon's (fund-raising events for which people solicit pledges of contributions to sex-related charities for every minute they masturbate, either at home or at a special masturbation party thrown for just that purpose) were held this year not only in San Francisco (on May 28th, San Francisco's seventh such event -- www.masturbate-a-thon.com), but also in Portland, Oregon, on May 14th (www.masturbate-a-thon.org), and in Toronto, Ontario, on May 28th (www.comeasyouare.com/masturbate) -- making the Masturbate-A-Thon an international vent for the first time. Not to be outdone, Seattle held its own "JO-Palooza," also a group (though not fund-raising) celebration of masturbation via mass participation on May 22nd. Lest you think that celebrating masturbation for a month, or coming together in large groups for communal masturbation rituals is only for the fringe of heart, take note that during last year's Masturbate-A-Thon in San Francisco, no fewer than 1700 people participated by turning in pledge forms and checks (though only a fraction of that number attended the central group event). The fund-raiser came up with close to $5000 for San Francisco's fledgling Center for Sex and Culture. Records were set and records were kept, as befits a sex-cultural center, perhaps with an eye to goading greater-than-ever exuberance from this year's Masturbate-A-Thon participants. (Longest time masturbating: 6 hours, 32 minutes. Most money raised by one individual: $1,000. Most documented orgasms: 36.) Now there's even an article (www.vgg.com/tp/tp_053101_nmm.html) online decrying the "crass commercialization" of National Masturbation Month, meaning the use of same to sell increasingly complicated and expensive sex gadgets, in place of what author T. Mike esteems as the traditional, tried-and-true, organic, and expense-free mainstays of "my imagination and my trusty right hand." "The decorations go up earlier and earlier every year [at] my cosy local mom 'n' pop sex shop," complains T. Mike. What is the world coming to, he laments, when National Masturbation Month has been reduced to what he calls a "hollow sham and a mockery." Ten years of history, and now a plump target for commercial exploitation! National Masturbation Month has truly arrived. In America, you know you're culturally relevant when you've got enough market share to become worthy of corporate co-optation. First Gay Pride, now National Masturbation Month. Of course, it's true that being promoted by stores the likes of Good Vibrations and Toys in Babeland is not the same thing as being sponsored by Toyota. But now that National Masturbation Month is being promulgated by virtually every politically-conscious sex-positive boutique from coast to international coast, can the influx of corporate logos from Bud Light, Phillip Morris, Hitachi, and Liquid Silk be far behind? There are people who, in the process of redeeming masturbation from the junk heap of "losers' sex," are inclined to raise it to the level of the ultimate sexual experience. Good Vibrations sells t-shirts that read, "If you want something done right, do it yourself," and I've often heard it argued that skillful masturbation can produce more intense and more satisfying orgasms than partner sex can ever hope to match. As much as I stand ready to mount the barricades that would liberate masturbation from centuries of embarrassment and shame -- as much as I enjoy elaborate solo sex sessions that slowly build to truly powerful ecstatic orgasmic releases -- as much as I have always masturbated regularly, whether I had an ongoing sexual partner or not -- still, I have to say that, when it comes to ultimate sexual experiences, my mind (and body, and, dare I say, soul) have a way of turning to something other than masturbation, something that goes beyond myself into the world of interpersonal connectivity. I like a good orgasm as much as anyone else, but for me, the heart of the sexual matter is not about achieving reliable and powerful orgasms, but about mixing something down deep inside me with something down deep inside someone else, about interpersonal intimacy, about transcending the boundaries of self. So maybe it's not surprising that, when I sat down to make a list of personal masturbatory experiences worth writing about in a column -- masturbation events that stand out from every day, business-as-usual fare -- what kept coming to mind were experiences that involved other people, one way or another. I don't remember the first time I masturbated. I don't even remember the first time I ejaculated. I forgive myself the first bit of forgetfulness, especially since I have reason to believe that I masturbated regularly as an infant, as a way of dealing with starvation panic. But the second memory lapse strikes me as both strange and disturbing. I've heard all kinds of stories from other men (more often frightening than pleasurable for people who grew up in relative sexual ignorance) about first ejaculation surprises. You'd certainly think a person would remember something as dramatic as liquid spurting unexpectedly from his penis. But for the life of me, I have no memory whatsoever of that coming-of-age event, the boy's equivalent of first menstruation, my physiological emergence into the possibility of propagating the species. The earliest masturbation routine I remember involved kneeling by the side of my bed (a posture that other kids used to say their prayers, I suppose) and playing with myself while looking at sexy pictures of busty movie stars in tight angora sweaters. (I know I'm dating myself here, but you'll have to do your own math.) There were a host of tacky little magazines published back then, truly miniature in size (maybe five inches high and three inches wide), with titillating stories about movie stars and other celebrities, and even more titillating pictures of the sex sirens of the day. The magazines were called things like Pix and Vue, and they wouldn't raise an eyebrow even among the Religious Right these days, but each era has its own boundary where things get risqu, and these magazines were on the edge of mine. I would steal them from the corner store because I was too young to buy magazines with sexy pictures (I would have been too embarrassed to buy them, even if Mrs. Meyer would have sold them to me, which she wouldn't have), and these were the only ones I could easily stuff into my pockets. I'm not sure how old I was. Maybe ten. I'm sorry to say that I don't remember any particularly noteworthy masturbational events while I was growing up. Nothing particularly ecstatic, nothing particularly humiliating. (My dad would always whistle as he was walking up the stairs, toward my room, so that I would have time to conceal anything I didn't want him to see.) No circle jerks, no masturbating in front of other people, no seeing other people masturbate. (I'm taking masturbation to be what my dictionary says it is -- sex you do by and to yourself, rather than the other meaning that some people give it -- sex you do with your hand. In my book, "mutual masturbation," while a distinctly pleasurable activity, is also simply a contradiction in terms....) For me, masturbation was ubiquitous, to be sure, but hardly inspiring of poetry. There was lots of masturbating to porn. Masturbating silently in college so as not to wake up my roommates. Masturbating while driving -- enjoying the discipline of controlled surrender, giving myself over to orgasms (even big orgasms) while paying attention to keeping the car on the road, and not weaving enough to get pulled over by some cop. ("I'm not drunk, officer, I was just masturbating.") Is it illegal to masturbate while driving, if you keep your seat belt on? The masturbation memories I have that are most interesting to me all seem to involve masturbating in front of other people, or watching other people masturbate -- something I got to do frequently later in my life at sex parties of various stripes. In my mid-thirties I encountered swingers parties for the first time -- parties where people got together in groups for the explicit purpose of having sex with people who were not their primary partners. Masturbation at mainstream swingers parties, however, at least at the parties that I discovered in my early swinger days, was generally quite subdued, at least for men. People were either having sex or watching people have sex, but not doing both at the same time. Watching and playing with yourself just didn't seem to happen very much, which carried the implicit message, typical for masturbation, that it was vaguely, if unspokenly, an uncool thing to do, or to do openly. But then the magnificent Jack-and-Jill-Off parties came to San Francisco, bringing with them a completely different sexual culture and a whole new set of sexual rules and norms. The pansexual Jack-and-Jill-Off parties grew out of masturbation parties sponsored by the San Francisco Jacks, a group of gay men who wanted to eroticize safe sex at a time when AIDS awareness was first coming to the surface. At Jacks parties, groups of gay men came together to masturbate -- themselves and each other (contradictions in terms be damned) -- and the word was out around town that the whole thing was extremely hot. Women and heterosexual men who wanted to come and just watch were politely turned away. Eventually David Talbot (founder and editor-in-chief of Salon Magazine), Jerry Zientara, and a small group of friends, decided to organize the "World's First Jack-&-Jill-Off Party," a truly revolutionary event which came to pass on November 7, 1987. The party, attended by about 150 people encompassing a broad array of genders and sexual orientations, was a smashing success. Unprotected sex was strictly outlawed (monitors circulated to ensure compliance) and, much more significantly in terms of inspiring sexual creativity, intercourse of any kind, vaginal or anal, even with latex protection, was also forbidden. No intercourse?!? What were people to do??? Denied the straight and narrow road to the same-old-same-old, people were forced to use their imaginations. "Just imagine a party of women and men using their heads as well as their hands to reinvent sex! Making whoopee while making history!" declared the invitation to the World's First Jack-and-Jill-Off Party. The result was the explosion of what JJO promoter Jerry Zientara brilliantly and accurately has described as a psychosexual laboratory of sexual invention -- a culture of sexual experimentation that managed to span, blur, and in many cases entirely obliterate previously sacrosanct distinctions of sexual orientations, tastes, practices, and preferences. "We made whoopee! We made history! At the world's first J&J party hot Jills and sexy Jacks came together using imagination, minds and hands to prove that safe sex can make the earth move!" exulted Zientara's invitation, three months later, to the sequel Jack-and-Jill-Off Party, "The Second Cumming," a party that turned out to be even larger, even more imaginative, and even more fun than the first. To the delight and sexual edification of hundreds of grateful people, myself included, a long succession of JJO parties followed, becoming a significant feature of San Francisco's multifaceted sexual scene through 1995. At the Jack-and-Jill-Off parties, masturbation was not only respected without reservation, but was revered as a truly first-rate sexual activity of preference. As a result, couple or group sexual activity took place, more often than not, surrounded by rings of intense observers, many or most masturbating openly with great enthusiasm. Among other things, the openness about masturbation provided an opportunity for people of all sexual persuasions and orientations to experiment with new sexual roles and personas that they might have been much more reluctant to enter into with a partner. I remember watching a close gay male friend avidly masturbating while attentively watching two women who were engrossed in heated sex on a mattress at his feet. He explained that he wanted to see if he could get excited by women, by watching women being sexual, something he had never tried before. (It turned out that he could, indeed.) Many men who steadfastly identified as heterosexual nevertheless experimented with jerking off while watching pairs or groups of men being sexual. For many of these men, it was a significant step in overcoming their own homophobia. For more than a few, this became a first step toward opening to more direct sexual contact with other men. (At the other end of the homophobia spectrum, men whose homophobia was decidedly more entrenched could be seen at every party, discreetly wending their ways to the door early in the evening.) So what are the experiences that stand out for me personally? I remember one very glamorous, dramatic woman, obviously enjoying being the center of attention of a large circle of men, all masturbating, while she danced and moved seductively among them, sometimes turning her attention to one or another of the men, sometimes to the whole group. The scene culminated with the men hoisting the woman off the floor entirely, suspending her in the center of the tight circle of male bodies with one hand, while masturbating with the other until all the men had ejaculated onto her belly, to the cheers and laughter of everyone, especially the glistening epicenter of the scene. I remember another time, when I was masturbating rather absent-mindedly, leaning up against the wall while watching a couple, maybe several couples, maybe a group of people, having sex on mattresses in the center of the floor. At one point I became aware of a woman on the opposite side of the room, also leaning up against the wall, also masturbating. At first we were both watching the people in the center of the room, but after a while we caught into each other's eyes, and before long we were masturbating directly to each other. Gradually, the energy grew, and eventually we both came, exchanging warm smiles but without ever saying a word,. There was another, somewhat similar, encounter, that I remember as being exceptionally powerful, also at a sex party. I was watching a couple playing with each other in a casual, light-hearted way, the two of them standing against a wall in a large roomful of people with lots of different couples and groups being sexual in various ways. The man stood behind the woman, both of them facing outward, and I loved watching while he played with her breasts, her legs, her belly, her pussy, the two of them gradually getting more and more excited. Not wanting to intrude, I kept my distance, masturbating quietly, as if my masturbation had nothing to do with them. Eventually the woman noticed me, then looked away, noticed me again, looked away again. Each time we made eye contact, I felt permission to move a little closer to them, until I was standing right in front of them, masturbating more and more vigorously as they got more and more excited themselves. They clearly enjoyed being watched, but said nothing to me, made no overt recognition that I was there at all, certainly made no invitation for me to join them. If it weren't for the fact that I was standing only about two feet in front of them, I might have thought they hadn't noticed me at all. The unspoken agreement was that I could watch and masturbate as much as I wanted, as long as there was no physical contact between them and me, which is how we continued until both the woman and I came. (Maybe the man came too; I really don't remember.) Afterwards, we all smiled, more to ourselves than to each other. No one said anything to acknowledge the connection we had just had. I wandered off, thoroughly delighted, and never saw them again. There are others, but these are the stories that come to mind. I'm sure that everyone who reads this has dozens of masturbation stories too -- pleasurable stories, painful stories, mundane stories, exotic stories. Hopefully you have someone you can (or could) tell your masturbation stories to -- a partner, a lover, a family member, a friend. Maybe that's something to add to the mix in May, 2006, when National Masturbation Month will come again -- a gathering of appreciative friends, a time and place for people to come together, sip good wine, eat good cheese, sit around the fireplace, tell a bunch of their long-unspoken, long-neglected masturbation stories, and affirm together the goodness of sexual pleasure in all its forms. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Three books edited by David Steinberg -- "Photo Sex: Fine Art Sexual Photography Comes of Age," "Erotic by Nature: A Celebration of Life, of Love, and of Our Wonderful Bodies," and "The Erotic Impulse: Honoring the Sensual Self," are available from David by mail order at eronat@aol.com. If you'd like to receive Comes Naturally and other writing by David Steinberg regularly via email (free and confidential), send your name and email address to David at eronat@aol.com. Columns are sent as blind carbon copies, meaning that no one will have access to your name or email address. David Steinberg P.O. Box 2992 Santa Cruz, CA 95063 (831) 426-7082 eronat@aol.com

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Sexual Positions
Oral Worship The insertive partner gets his power trip with Kneel and Pray; now, it's the receptive partner's turn. Oral sex usually seems to involve the pleasuring of one person, unless it's an orgy of sorts. But, it's still considered sex and very important in the pursuit of an orgasm, especially for certain women. TheRhythmicBox The cowgirl gets the ride of her life in this new technique. This is an evolved version of your standard girl-on-top position and is good for women who had just gotten used to their partner's cocks, especially if it's above average in size. The insertive partner is lying on his back while his partner gently gets on top of him and glides down onto his penis. The receptive partner should bounce up and down a bit to get used to the feel. Then, in what appears to be a box from a bird's-eye view, the woman moves from right to back to left and front and repeat, slowly at first then faster until she's all wet going at it like a maniac. This position is a good G-spot stimulator and fun for the woman as she gets to control the speed and action. For a little added stimulation, the man may thrust up or just relax and enjoy the ride. Connect the Dots This foursome position requires a lot more participation from the parties involved than and is a whole lot more intriguing, to say the least. It's not necessarily for two couples, but more like for four people who are looking for a good time. But two sets of couples may partake in this mating ritual - it's not exclusive as long as the magic number remains "4." One person is standing next to the bed while receiving head from Person #2, who is lying horizontally on bed (it works best on either a king-size or queen-size bed). Then Person #3 is going down on Person #2 from behind in what appears to be an open-ended 69 position while Person #4 plays the most dominant role as the insertive partner in this carnal festival. If Person #4 is a woman, then some fondling is in order for Person #3. Anyone can switch roles and positions until everyone is in the other person's shoes. Throw in a few dildos and see what the possibilities are for this four-way romp!

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Aphrodesiac: Divine Wine
Divine Wine By Sher Core Wine is wonderful. Drinking wine can be an amazingly erotic experience. Alone, it adds a sophisticated sex appeal to meals, social events and romantic interludes.Discovering ways to make wines more fruitful, spicy, seductive or whatever we desire may help us uncover new secrets of seduction. Making wine (and love) is best achieved by adding many exotic layers (to both our libations and the following lovemaking). It is not a single reaction, but a wave within the whole: the initial flavor followed by several rippling undertones with a blissful, lingering finish. It's the taste of the wine, the scent, the tang on the tongue and the soothing feelings wine inspires that make it such a fabulous drink for romance. Wine can be fortifying as well as satisfying. There is research that 1-2 glasses of wine per day may reduce the risk of heart disease; perhaps, in part, due to its antioxidant content. Combined with wine's well-known relaxing (and de-stressing) benefits, wine is receiving wide recognition for its ability to help both body and mind. Do remember that excessive alcohol will make you too drowsy (and drunk) for after-dinner romance. A modest amount of wine can arouse and awaken several senses. It can help us let go, loosen up and get to lovemaking. Moderation is the key. There are ways to make a little count a lot. Let your eyes feast on the color of the liquid. Breathe in the bouquet. Caress the glass; savor the flavor on your lips. And, of course, get creative. Straight wine straight is great. But, carefully crafted wine combination (see the recipes below) can turn magnificent into near magical. There are several ancient aphrodisiac wine recipes. Many are intertwined with myth. Around the 17 th century, a strengthening aphrodisiac was formed by adding cinnamon, galingale root, ginger, nutmeg, rosemary and thyme in wine and letting it infuse for a week before straining. People would drink a cup a day to enhance sexual prowess. A recipe known as Hippocras' Aphrodisiac is made by combining red burgundy wine with cinnamon, cloves, ginger, vanilla and sugar. A quick search on the Internet will yield you abundant wine recipes. Be careful and use common sense before whipping potions up. Some may help; others could kill you. Below you'll find recipes on enhancing wine. Each blend offers exclusive ways to enhance the enchantment of a simple bottle (or glass) of wine. I've added comments on ingredients so you can get a deeper understanding of why and how each element works within the whole. Make sure you use only pure essential oils from a reputable supplier. Some companies compose the fragrance of rose by combining other essential oils which, when mixed, mimic the scent of rose. They mark the bottle pure essential oil, which is technically true. However, it is not pure essential rose oil. It will not have the same flavor or feel as pure rose oil. To further complicate matters, some essential oils are toxic when ingested; so, never consume any suspect oil. Some companies use fragrance oils rather than essential oils and fragrance oils can poison you. Ask your health food retailer to recommend essential oils which are suitable for ingestion. Don't get paranoid. However, caution is healthy when jumping into new experiences. Enjoy the learning process. Take pleasure in enhancing your wines together with your lover. Delight in each drink. Allow each essence to linger on your tongue after each swallow, allowing for slow pleasurable sipping. Citrus and Spice Ingredients: 1 bottle red wine or white wine (Your favorite brand) 2 drops sweet orange essential oil: Sweet, fresh and fruity, this oil warms the heart. Its popular scent is lively yet calming. It's cleansing and may help eliminate toxins from the body. It has a clean, sweet citrus taste. 1 drop cinnamon essential oil: Sweet and stimulating, cinnamon can increase blood flow. Cinnamon is a classic aphrodisiac spice. Using the essential oil is a high-concentrate way of adding the essence of the spice without the mess and bulk of using the entire herb. The scent of cinnamon can be powerfully attractive to both men and women. Cinnamon oils contribute to a wonderful aftertaste in wines. 1 drop nutmeg essential oil: In mythology, this oil has been recommended for blends to add physical and metaphysical energy as well as clairvoyance. In aromatherapy, it has been used to lift fatigue and is thought to work as an antioxidant. Its scent is warm and exotic and is considered to have aphrodisiac properties. Arabs have long valued nutmeg for its aphrodisiac and medicinal effects. Nutmeg has slight narcotic and hallucinogenic properties. This is not to be exploited. Eating as little as one whole nutmeg can be deadly. Do not add more than one drop of nutmeg to this recipe. Preparation: Add all ingredients to the wine. Let it sit for at least 24 hours for the oils to marry, after which it is ready to be imbibed with your lover. White Wonder Ingredients: 1 bottle white wine (Your favorite brand) 1/2 tablespoon liquid honey: Many early Egyptian medicines contained honey to help cure both sterility and impotence. Mead (an alcoholic drink made from honey) was commonly used in medieval times by men looking to seduce maidens. It was also consumed by lovers on their honeymoon to sweeten the marriage. Honey not only dresses up this drink, but gives it an aphrodisiac kick. Honey is rich in B vitamins and amino acids. This sweet, sticky substance is fun to work with. It can be messy, but you can find ways to enjoy licking up the spills. 3 drops vanilla essential oil: Vanilla is smooth, clean, and can act as a euphoric. The scent of vanilla alone is often enough to stimulate both the male and female libido. When consumed, vanilla - like chocolate - can aid the central nervous system. Its flavor is rich, sweet and comforting. It adds very soothing qualities to this blend, which can contribute to trust and enhance feelings of ease with your partner. 1 drop rose essential oil: Flowers, being the reproductive organs of plants, are sexual in nature. Roses are the flowers which historically and culturally possess the most sexual power. Roses have been a cherished aphrodisiac since biblical times. They have been around for over 3,000 years, yet they still hold mystery.Roses have been extensively written about in poetry and prose. Nothing else tastes or smells quite like a rose. Its scent is deep, rich and floral. On the tongue, it tastes clean, smooth and surprisingly delicious. Preparation: Add the liquid honey to the white wine. Warm in a saucepan over low heat. Add each drop of essential oil. Mix. Take off heat. Pour in mugs and enjoy sipping with your partner. Red Dream Ingredients: 1 bottle red (Your favorite brand) 1 drop rosemary essential oil: Rosemary is the herb of love and remembrance. The essential oil is recognized as an aphrodisiac. Its scent may help with memory and concentration. It has been said to strengthen both the brain and the nervous system. It adds a grounding flavor to this truly intoxicating blend. 1 drop garden sage essential oil: In lore, this oil was used by the American Indians as a cleansing agent to banish evil spirits. Legend says that sage can bring about wisdom. It is fresh, clean and herbaceous. Its scent can help clear the mind, thus enhancing focus and concentration. It may help regulate the central nervous system, act as an anti-inflammatory and work as an anti-oxidant. 2 drops lemon essential oil: Lemon oil can be extremely uplifting. It is sometimes employed to help fight infections during the cold and flu season and in the proper dosage, it may act as a restorative and general tonic. Its flavor is clean and refreshing. 1 drop cinnamon essential oil: Hot and sweet, cinnamon oil warms, stimulates and revives tired nerves. It is often used to strengthen the immune system against colds and flu. The scent of cinnamon has been noted to improve libido in both men and women. Cinnamon oil contributes a wonderful ftertaste in wines. Preparation: Add all essential oils to the bottle of wine. Thoroughly mix. Once well-blended, immediately serve. However, it may be allowed to sit for 24 hours (in a dark cool place) to allow the flavors to marry. Or, better yet, drink some now and some later. DivineWine Email this article to a friend Note: These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. These statements are purely the opinion of the SexHerald.com Aphrodisiac writer(s), and do not necessarily reflect the views or positions of any SexHerald.com owners, management, shareholders, staff members, or writers. These statements are not intended to be a substitute for any professional advice or treatment you may seek or receive from a licensed medical practitioner. These aphrodisiac products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.

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Aphrodesiac: Fires Fervor
Fires Fervor By Sher Core Fire is the element most associated with physical desire. Water represents emotion. Air aids communication and earth grounds us. All are vital for a healthy relationship, but fire in particular may help us spark passion wherever there is potential. There are simple ways to add a fire's glow, such as candles and incense. An actual fireplace or wood-burning stove is better. When the weather suits it, an outdoor bonfire can be extremely romantic. Lighter fluid is not recommended. A much better way to prepare your wood for flame is to drop essential oils onto dry logs. Use no more than two drops of essential oil (or essential oil blend) per log. Let the oil dry and arrange logs and light. Below are oils that work especially well on firewood to add a rustic, romantic aroma to the smoky air. It is important to remember that fire is powerful and must be used with utter caution. If you have a fireplace, make sure your chute is clean and open before lighting up. To prepare blends with the essential oils listed below: Drop in the desired amount of each essential oil into a tinted glass vial. Shake well and drop onto logs with a dropper (two drops per log). You may first want to try using essential oils individually. You can quickly gain an understanding of which oils you'd like to try in blends. The oils you pick should be ones that both you and your lover find pleasant, which complements the personality of your relationship. Nice oils to prepare logs for Fire Roses have been a cherished aphrodisiac since biblical times. They have been around for over 3000 years, yet they still hold mystery. The red rose is a universal symbol of passionate love. It is considered the most sexual of all flowers. Red roses are a favored gift between lovers. They are a Valentine's Day tradition. The perfect blossom on the rose represents beauty, youth, perfection, and charm. Mythology of the rose is vast. In Greek legend, Chloris, the deity of flowers, was walking through the woods when she happened upon the dead body of a lovely nymph. Filled with sorrow, Chloris gave the nymph new life as a flower whose beauty surpassed all others. Aphrodite, the goddess of love, offered the bloom splendor, radiance, rapture and lure. The sun gave her warmth. Dionysius, the god of wine, scented her with nectar. When complete, she was crowned with dewdrops and was hailed "Rose, Queen of Flowers". We can't always have a blazing fire. However, adding fiery essential oils to baths, perfumes, massage oils and more can be enough to light the flames of passion. Below are some fiery essential oils you might wish to try. (See other aphrodisiac articles for ideas and recipes.) Fiery Essential Oils Allspice: Spicy, sense-enhancing allspice has been known to enhance positive feelings and reduce stress. The herb allspice is named such because it is said to taste like a mix of cloves, juniper berries, cinnamon and black pepper. Allspice, like many spice oils, is often used when mixing aphrodisiac perfumes. Black Pepper: Hot and spicy, black pepper oil is an aphrodisiac in small amounts. It's stimulating and mysterious. It can affect the circulatory system to improve muscle tone. Cinnamon: Hot and sweet, cinnamon oil warms, stimulates and revives tired nerves. It is often used to strengthen the immune system against colds and flu. The scent of cinnamon has been noted to improve libido in both men and women. Clove Bud: Spicy, sweet aphrodisiac that inspires the mind and memory. Clove bud oil often eases mental fatigue and nervous exhaustion. Its scent is warming, cheering and welcoming, and it's known to bring cheer to an environment. It is especially comforting during the cold season, perhaps due to its reported expectorant, antiviral and antibiotic qualities. Ginger: Spicy, hot and earthy, this oil energizes and warms. It is known as a powerful aphrodisiac that is both fiery and fortifying. It is helpful for easing sprains and lower back pain. Combined with rosemary and basil, it's great for reducing nausea and may aid with hangovers. Nutmeg: In mythology, this oil has been recommended for blends to add physical and metaphysical energy as well as added clairvoyance. In aromatherapy, it has been used to lift fatigue and is thought to work as an antioxidant. Its scent is warm and exotic and considered to have aphrodisiac properties We can also get the feel of fire by adding certain herbs to food and drink. Think: tea, salad, soup, seasoning and more. See below for a hot and spicy tea recipe from a previous aphrodisiac article followed by a glossary of fiery herbs. (See other aphrodisiac articles for more ideas.) Chai Desires Ingredients: Loose Strong Black Tea (such as Indian tea, Russian tea or a breakfast blend) - enough to brew a six-cup pot Powered Nutmeg - about 1/8 to1/4 teaspoon (to taste): In small amounts, nutmeg is a traditional aphrodisiac. It is recommended to use this spice in extreme moderation. Eating as much as one whole nutmeg could result in death. Powered Clove - about 1/8 to1/4 teaspoon (to taste): Eating cloves to increase libido is a trick passed down through the ages. This is a delicious and fragrant spice that may also improve breath. Powered Cardamom Seeds - 1/16 to1/8 teaspoon (to taste): Cardamom is often used to arouse sexual desire. It is a warming spice which can help restore balance and stamina as well as comfort the stomach. Powered Ginger - 1/16 to1/8 teaspoon (to taste): Ginger is a pungent aphrodisiac herb, which can help soothe the throat and cleanse the system. Anise-Star - about two stars: Anise has a sweet liquorice-like flavor. It's known to help improve digestion and act as a stimulant. Many use it to increase libido. Honey - to taste: Honey is considered an aphrodisiac due to its rich B-vitamin and amino-acid content. However, it is fun to lick off, too. Milk - to taste Put all the ingredients, except the milk and honey, into a pot and fill with six cups of hot water. I recommend steeping it a good long time (at least 15 minutes) to get a strong full mingling of flavors. Strain the herbs while pouring the liquid into cups. Add honey and milk to taste after brewing and straining. Fiery Herbs Black Pepper: Black Pepper is associated with courage and is an acknowledged aphrodisiac. Nutmeg: Nutmeg has a complex aroma that excites the senses. Nutmeg contains myristicin, which is related to mescaline, a psychedelic. In large doses, nutmeg may cause hallucinations. In smaller amounts, it is a traditional aphrodisiac. It is recommended to use this spice in extreme moderation. Eating as much as one whole nutmeg could result in death. Clove: Eating cloves to increase libido is a trick passed down through the ages. This is a delicious and fragrant spice that may also improve breath. Like most aphrodisiac spices, the aroma alone can be a turn-on. Ginger: Ginger is a pungent aphrodisiac herb, which can help soothe the throat and cleanse the system. It is a flavorful, fiery spice that can add a jump to your love life. The scent of ginger can be a sexual enhancer, especially for men. Cinnamon: Sweet and stimulating, cinnamon increases blood flow. Cinnamon is a classic aphrodisiac spice. The scent of cinnamon can be powerfully attractive to both men and women. FiresFervor Email this article to a friend Note: These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. These statements are purely the opinion of the SexHerald.com Aphrodisiac writer(s), and do not necessarily reflect the views or positions of any SexHerald.com owners, management, shareholders, staff members, or writers. These statements are not intended to be a substitute for any professional advice or treatment you may seek or receive from a licensed medical practitioner. These aphrodisiac products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.

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Sex: Public or Private
Darkroom Sex: Public or Private? By Kathryn Fischer Walk along Berlin's quiet Greifenhagener Strasse in Prenzlauer Berg and you'll pass at least three of the city's hottest sex clubs - only you probably wouldn't know it from the look of them. You might not even know if you stepped inside. Technically, these aren't sex clubs at all. These are Berlin's men-only darkroom bars. Like any other gay bar, men can grab a beer and cruise the scene at the relaxed front bar. But just a few meters to the back, men can fuck and suck in the dark without the fear of being judged or worse. Since the gay rights movement of the 80s, and the abolition of Germany's anti-sodomy law Paragraph 175 of the Constitution, Germany has come a particularly long way integrating gay life into the fabric of the community. That darkroom bars are such an acceptable part of the landscape is what make cities like Berlin and Amsterdam unlike any other place in the world. Says one darkroom frequenter: "In a place like London or New York, you can find these places but you kind of have to know where you're going; whereas here they are socially accepted and integrated into the gay scene [...], even into the straight scene. In Berlin, you can even find mixed [gender] darkrooms." Darkroom bars bridge the divide between sex clubs and "normal" bars, blurring the lines between public and private spaces for sex. In effect, their visibility may be the sign of a community that doesn't stigmatize sexual exploration within or outside of queer life. Darkroom bars are different from sex clubs because at a sex club, visitors immediately take off all or most of their clothes upon entering; sex is acceptable anywhere in the club, and most of the guests are there specifically to have sex. At most darkroom bars, a man can hang out all night fully clothed at the bar and never step foot into the darkness. But once he does, the darkness may set him looser than in an open sex club. Or, he can simply watch. Like sex clubs, many darkroom bars have sex parties or fetish theme nights, and some of them have dress codes. Stahlrohr Bar, for example, offers a "Youngster Sex Party" for young men between the ages 18 and 28, "Fist & Fuck!" Sundays and "Sneakers, Boots & Socks" nights. The Midnight Sun offers the Golden Dreams party on Saturdays. The typical dress code is underwear, naked or fetish. During some sex parties, doors are locked for the entire party for about two hours so that the community is fixed and more private. The darkroom itself is a maze of thin black walls, each room growing darker. Wooden stalls offer nooks of privacy and some are equipped with glory holes, transforming body parts into offerings for an anonymous guest in the adjacent stall. Used paper towels littering the floor and white T-shirts of waiting men are illuminated by the black light, but the farthest rooms - the ones with the slings - are pitch black. One unspoken rule is no talking allowed. Says one source, "It's all in the eye signals - who you follow, who will follow you ... You don't get trained in darkroom etiquette, but all of a sudden you understand it. You get the opportunity to look people in the eye and the signals are clear." Subtle signals are integral to the trick of finding like-minded partners in the dark. Handkerchief codes, for example, can be used to alert potential partners to various fetishes. The website of one Berlin darkroom bar lists over 27 shades of handkerchiefs, the right pocket implying a passive role and the left pocket implying an active one, like I am master/I am slave or I fist/I want to be fisted dichotomies. A dark red handkerchief in the left pocket signals I like to ride. In the right, it's I'm a pony. Sometimes it's entirely in the details. While starting to decrease in popularity, the skinhead fetish (half dark denim, half acid-washed jeans and short-cropped hair) has been popular for several years. A "real" skinhead is distinguished from his look-a-like merely by the color of his shoelaces. One fetish scene that inevitably draws attention to itself is the bareback scene. Some clubs have signed the Deutsche AIDS-Hilfe, an agreement that they will provide free condoms and lube behind the bar, but beyond that clubs aren't responsible. One club owner says, "We encourage everyone to have safe sex, but we don't go in and actually regulate. If two consenting adults want to have sex without a condom, that's not the business of the bar." The impression of several visitors is that many men do not use condoms, especially during oral sex. "I don't think [darkrooms] are safe at all. I'm sure it's not all with condoms. There are a lot of people who go there very drunk or off their heads on drugs," says one. While the owner of The Midnight Sun admitted that Berlin has a rapidly growing number of STD cases, "we see in the morning that a lot of people are using condoms ... they litter the floor ... especially in the last six months." Whatever the statistics, Berlin clubs make it a priority not to stigmatize anyone with STDs. Several advertise "Positives Welcome." One club owner feels, however, that such ads stigmatize more than not. "I don't like such signs. Everyone knows that positives are welcome. I know a lot of people with HIV, some I've known for 15 years. They are human. Everyone is welcome here. Besides, there are a lot of other diseases that are just as serious: Tripper, Syphilis." But the risk of STDs isn't the only reason why darkrooms are viewed by some men as unsafe. One visitor feels that darkrooms are potentially dangerous emotional-wise because so little communication occurs. "You have married or straight guys that are curious about gay sex and don't have to talk about it ... that's not exactly healthy." Others feel this is precisely what makes darkrooms so safe: they are male private spaces free from the judgmental eyes of the public. There are no misconceptions about one's presence, communication is direct and sexual participation is not assumed. As one man put it, "A private space is a place where there are no prying eyes of the uninitiated. And in this case, the uninitiated are 1) females and 2) heterosexuals ... In public spaces, especially in America, you define yourself according to how people see you, judge you. So if a nonmember shows up in a private space, it's as though the judgmental eye of society just came in, and all of a sudden men are pulling up their pants." So how private are men's only darkrooms, and who is and is not a member? The owner at The Midnight Sun says that on a busy night, 10 to 25 people will be turned away based on whether or not they'll "fit" with the rest of the bar. "If the crowd is between 30 and 45 years old and someone walks in who is about 18, we will refuse them." Women are never allowed. Neither male-identified females nor drag queens are permitted to enter. If a woman is let in as an exception, she can hang out at the bar but is forbidden from entering the darkroom itself. But in an age when gender lines are increasingly blurry, and in a city with such a large transsexual population, barring anyone at the door has some theoretical problems. A few men were willing to speculate on how they would react were they to be confronted in the dark by something "other" than a penis. "I suppose if a woman showed up I would be a bit turned off ... or embarrassed. It would be almost as if you were getting a blowjob and your mom showed up," said one visitor. Another said: "It's hard to imagine! I mean, it might have already happened to me. Sometimes people do just want to suck you off. So, you might not know." While questions of gender definition may be another hurdle for darkrooms to tackle, the fact that men are able to talk about them with relative ease signals that Berlin is one city that's not willing to keep kinky sex completely in the dark. DarkroomSex:PublicorPrivate?

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MIni Rabbitt
Product: Mini Rabbit Manufacturer: Doc Johnson Genres:: vibrator, dual action Reviewer: Audrey Green Everyone with a pulse has heard of the Rabbit. Made famous by a Sex and the City episode, the Rabbit has become synonymous with the female orgasm, causing it to be viewed with pleasure by the female population and as a competitor by the male. Many a guy claims to have lost his girlfriend to the cute bunny. After all, how can fingers and tongue compete with the vibrations of those little ears, especially when the user is in control of the speed and intensity? And its just so darn cute! Can a man really compete with that? The Mini Rabbit claims to pack all the punch of its larger counterpart, offering limitless orgasms that could leave you a willing prisoner in your own bed. Prepare to be chained. There are some obvious differences between the Mini Rabbit and other vibrators, even at first glance. To start, there is the clitoral stimulator in the shape of a rabbit. Its actually pretty cute, all 3 of it. Its the ears you should be most interested in though, as that is the part that will provide the most stimulation. While you might think 1 isnt enough to elicit the famed orgasms the Rabbit is notorious for, dont be fooled. The feather light touch of those little ears will have you writhing in ecstasy in seconds flat. The control box at the base of the vibrator has the buttons that can change both the speed and intensity of the clitoral stimulator; the speed of the stimulator is controlled using the V button while the F changes the functions. The ability to vary both the speed and function in different combinations ensures youll never tire of your new pet. The Rabbit attachment alone should be enough to satisfy most folks, especially when considering there is a whole separate vibrator we havent even had the opportunity to use. But the fun doesnt stop with the attachment. The 6 shaft has three rows of rotating pearls just beneath the head. While you might initally be far too distracted by the Rabbits vibrating ears to enjoy the pearls (as if thats a bad thing), soon enough youll sense the pearls rotating clockwise and counterclockwise (signified by the red and green lights, as if youll be looking at them). Combined with the clitoral stimulation, the pearls in the shaft make for a guaranteed orgasm nearly every time you use the Mini Rabbit. Thats a far better track record than any man I know. Will the Mini Rabbit ever replace a man for me? No, but its an excellent substitution in the interim. In fact, Ill probably be spending so much time in a state of post orgasmic bliss that any new prospects will have to come looking for me. That doesnt sound too bad either. MiniRabbit

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